In this post we discussed why it’s absolutely imperative to take responsibility for our actions if we want more power and freedom in our lives. Taking responsibility is the first step to moving towards a life that reflects our greatest hopes and dreams, rather than our fears and shortcomings.
Today I want to talk to you about the next step in our “Four Steps to Mental Freedom Series”. Because we all know that if simply deciding to take responsibility for our actions were enough, every New Year’s resolution would be kept for a lifetime. Every time we read a book and felt really inspired by the action steps it told us to take, we would do them for a lifetime. There’s just one little thing that comes before our actions and our ability to alter them; it’s our thoughts.
To have mental freedom, we have to take responsibility for our mind frame.
It’s vitally important that we take responsibility for our thoughts because our actions are predicated by what we spend the majority of our time thinking about.
In fact, I would venture to say (and I’m not alone in this… for starters Freud, Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale, and Tony Robbins would agree) that taking responsibility for our thoughts is the single most powerful thing we can do in order to create our best lives. Because, forcing our actions when our thinking hasn’t changed might lead to momentary success (a few days in a row of hitting the gym) but ultimately results in tension and frustration, which can often result in procrastination, or the antithesis of taking the actions we desire.
Your frequency of thought determines your life and what actions you’re going to take. Which frequency do you choose to live in? If you chose to live in the highest frequency yet you find negative thoughts are constantly popping up unintentionally, then keep reading my friend.
I’m sure you’ve heard this before – we become what we think about; thoughts become things so choose the goods ones, and yet we take these little mini negative vacations in order to complain about our day or feel sorry for ourselves.
For example, you wake up in the morning and take several actions that are positive and support the goal of your future self. You eat a healthy breakfast, complete self-hypnosis, and look at your vision board. Then, your mom calls and you take the opportunity to vent about your job, your boyfriend, or your money problems. Despite your intentions, your thoughts are focused on what you don’t like about your life.
Your ten-second pity party nurtured negativity and stagnation. Having a thought in one direction and a contradictory thought a few minutes later makes the first thought useless. A positive thought plus a negative thought means neutrality, stagnation, nothing moves forward. A negative plus a negative thought is obviously going backwards. And a positive thought plus a positive thoughts results in progress and moving forward.
How many of your positive thoughts are being canceled out by momentary pity parties or venting to friends over brunch?
If you’re like 99.99% of the people I know, A LOT! Because we’ve developed a culture where our connections begin at the lowest common denominator and apart of how we’ve learned to spend time together, is by getting together to complain.
It’s not your fault! And yet, if you want to have a different experience, it is your responsibility.
So how do we change? How do we stop thinking negatively? How do we transform our thoughts to transform our lives?
Here are five ways to get the ball rolling:
1. BECOME AWARE OF YOUR NEGATIVE PROGRAMMING
Even being aware of your negative thoughts is a huge step towards mental freedom and the ability to change your life. As you become more and more aware of your own thoughts, you can catch the ones that need to be weeded out and immediately replaced with thoughts that reflect your best life.
2. REPROGRAM YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
Now, do you ever wonder why when you really, really, really want to finish writing that book – you just haven’t done it yet? You REALLY want to but you just haven’t done it…why?! You’ve been conditioned to procrastinate, to have fear, to doubt that what you’re going to say will help anybody, to wonder if you’ll be able to get a publisher, to believe you’re writing isn’t worthy of money, and the list goes on and on. All of this stuff going on in the background that you’re not even aware of that is impacting your actions and your thoughts.
And the fact of the matter is, no matter how badly we want it, no matter how many books we read, no matter how many seminars we attend, unless we meet those behaviors those beliefs where they live, in the subconscious mind, they will never change.
3. THINK ABOUT YOUR BEST LIFE
“Even when I was in the orphanage, when I was roaming the street trying to find enough to eat, even then I thought of myself as the greatest actor in the world. I had to feel the exuberance that comes from utter confidence in yourself. Without it, you go down to defeat”. – Charlie Chaplin
Just imagine what is the best life you could live,what would it look like? What is your best life? Feel it with emotion. What images? What places? What homes or cars or jet planes are included in your best life? What smells do you smell as you move through your best life? What do you look like in your best life? What actions must you take on a daily basis in order for you to live your best life? Now these actions will be a result of your thinking so, most importantly, what thoughts must you be thinking all day every day every moment to create your best life?
4. REPEAT, REPEAT, REPEAT
“Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality”. – Earl Nightingale
Repetition can not be understated! Make this work a daily practice, an ongoing commitment to yourself. Focus on and repeat the things in your life that you want to perpetuate.
When you wake up in the morning, think about your best life and set an intention to repeat these positive thoughts throughout the day as much as you can. At the end of the day, spend time again with these thoughts and intentions.
Repeat this practice over and over and over. This is key to your success.
5. BE GRATEFUL
Gratitude gets thrown around a lot these days and I have to say, nothing will fill your heart and mind with joy faster than thinking about and appreciating someone or something in your life. Being grateful and spending as much time in gratitude is a surefire way to change your life, FAST.
Make gratitude a practice. When you wake up in the morning, think about what your grateful for. Let it be the place you go when you’re challenged, when you feel your thoughts spiraling in the wrong direction.
Take a deep breath, think of what is good right now, and smile.
Have you had experience changing your mindset to make big changes in your life? Tell me about it in the comments below. I’d love to hear about it.